Taking a day-off from mind

Knowingly or unknowingly we are continuously using our mind powers without any breaks. Except in deep sleep our mind keeps ‘working for us’. Now this is a matter of investigation whether our mind is working for us or against us, but its a different topic which need to be discussed separately. But it remains a fact that our mind doesn’t take any breaks, doesn’t take any rest in between, which obviously is driving our mind crazy. Our mind is not able to function efficiently because of the stress created by this continuous working.

So what we can get out of this day-off from mind?
– Body can function according to its own laws because mind is not going to interfere and body will feel rejuvenated
– Mind will get lot of rest from a day’s inactivity
– It will reduce overall stress level
– Body and mind will get chance to synchronize with each other
– You will get opportunity to explore deeper levels of existence beyond body-mind system

Since our mind has been working for ever, the whole functioning of mind has become very mechanical, robot like. So even if you decide not to use your mind for a day, it would continue working. In fact it might fight with you and might not allow you to shut it down. By using these tips you can help your mind shut down smoothly.

Some Preparations
– Choose a day when you don’t have to do any urgent work
– It would be best if you can stay alone in your place
– Depending on your situation, you might choose to inform your friends and family that you are going to be very busy with yourself so you don’t expect any visits or calls
– Arrange some good music, only audio. Instrumental music would be better but it depends on your taste
– Arrange some good food for yourself
– Keep some loose and comfortable dresses ready

Starting your day
When you wake up in the morning, stay on the bed for few moments without doing anything. If you feel like lying down (but not sleeping), do so. Now start your day very slowly. Do everything as slowly as possible, it might feel strange in the beginning but soon you will be able to feel the joy of it.

Make a cup of Tea for yourself, slowly. Enjoy each and every part of making tea. It might feel strange or even stupid but soon you will discover joy of it. Now tea is ready. Take it to your favorite place and enjoy it. You may choose to listen to some nice music while having tea.

If you have not done it last night, then turn off your mobile phone, computer and other such devices now, which connect you with others.

So what’s next
There is no next today. Let your day flow as it flows. Today is a day of no planning, no schedule, no deadlines, no time crunch. Spend as much time as you like in anything you are presently enjoying. Today choose random actions and activities over planned ones.

Some Tips
Remember that you will not be judged by the end of this day. There is no better option than what you are doing right now and there is no better way of doing it. There is nothing that you are expecting out of the current activity. The activity itself is complete. Enjoying what you are doing right now is the only outcome of it.Physical activities will help a lot in relaxing. These activities may include taking long shower, laying in bath tub, dancing, spot jogging, jumping, doing crazy movements with your body, cleaning, preparing food etc. Gardening is one of the best stress busters so if possible spend time with your lovely plants and flowers.

Whenever you feel restlessness in your mind, get involved in some of your favorite physical activity or get something nice to eat.

Taking a quick nap can be a good idea. It will give your body and mind bonus rest.

Have a wonderful day 🙂

Are you up for clarity?

It has been my observation that most important thing to gain clarity is the intention and intensity. With many people it happens that they come to know about clarity from some sources and they start desiring it same as they would desire anything else. But since their energy is divided in many desires, they are not able to give full energy to the attempt for clarity. And without full intention and intensity you will not gain anything out of the process of clarity. And like everything else clarity also has a cost to it.

So lets check whats the cost of clarity?
The only cost of clarity is letting go of confusion, which is caused mainly because of some beliefs, opinions and judgments. The process of clarity would make some changes happen within the seeker of clarity. If you expect that you can gain clarity without changing anything inside you or in your life, it is simply not possible.

Are we ready to pay the cost of clarity?
If you come to know that your favorite belief is the root of your present confusion, would you let it go? I am not saying that you would need to leave all your beliefs. May be you would not need to do anything about anything.  A belief stays within only because we take it as truth. The moment you see a belief as belief it drops by itself. But I am talking about the attitude with which you go into the process of clarity. When encountered,  first a belief might seem something very precious and you might not prefer to let it go even at the cost of not having clarity. So go into the process of clarity with the attitude that whatever the cost, I want clarity. And if you don’t feel this attitude then its much better to suffer in confusion. This suffering would prepare ground for yourself to go into clarity process totally.

And without intention there is no intensity. So lets put our efforts in something which we really want.

How to use Self-enquiry effectively

Self-enquiry in most direct method of realizing true self. The focus always remains only on one thing that is ‘who am I’. There are different variants of self-enquiry that are practiced.Some of the versions of self-enquiry are
– Asking yourself ‘who am I?’
– Asking yourself ‘what am I?’
– Asking yourself ‘do I exist?’
– Finding the one who is suffering
– Finding the experiencer
– Finding the receiver of all experiences

If this method is not practiced correctly, it may becomes a mental process and may result in stress. Here are some pointers to help using this method effectively. Don’t use all the pointers at a time, choose correct ones  based on the version of self-enquiry you are practicing.

Dos —–

Sensing yourself, not seeing yourself
It is almost like using your power of sensing/feeling when you are in a dark room where there is no way to see anything directly. So put your efforts in sensing or feeling. If you try to see yourself in the conventional way, mind will divide itself into two parts, one the seer and other the seen. And it will create lot of stress.

Bring your attention at the place, where you are seeing from
When we start asking questions about self, mind starts giving answers in different forms, like thoughts, feelings, experiences etc. And it can keep you engaged for long time. To avoid such things, don’t focus on what you see but focus on the place from where the seeing is taking place. You may feel some restlessness but if you continually keep your focus on this place from where the seeing is taking place, very soon you will start relaxing in your true self.

Focus on the sense of existence within the body-mind
There is a natural sense of existence within each one of us. Just focus on this sense of existence. Just feel it and keep feeling it, very soon it will start giving beautiful results. You will start feeling naturally relaxed and happy, without any efforts at your end. But don’t try to see this sense of existence otherwise it may become very stressful.

Don’t s —-

Don’t try to ‘see’ yourself. What you see will automatically make it seen and you the seer
So it means you can never see yourself in a conventional way because whatever you can see will move you one step deeper than what you are seeing. But there is a natural awareness of the self that arises effortlessly once you are relaxed in the true self.

Don’t try to search yourself rather explore yourself
The fact that you are interested in knowing yourself is enough evidence that you already are. You don’t have to create yourself or grow yourself. Your true self is already present within, you just need to explore it.

Don’t think or imagine about yourself
Thinking and imagining about something is always ‘About’ something, its not that thing itself. Its like word Mango, which tells you a lot about a fruit but still its not the fruit itself and cannot give you taste of Mango. And here also we are trying to know the thinker and so we cannot know it within the box of thinking. The thinker is always outside the scope of thinking.

Don’t bother about mind being present or absent, empty or full, mind or no-mind.
Just don’t mind. These are all just words at this point of time, when you are trying to know yourself. And when you know yourself, then also they are just words. But if you start caring about such concepts then your mind can keep you busy for long and away from self discovery.

Let go of habit of defining everything

The life is immediately available to be lived, to be loved and it is through living the life that we know it. But it does not seem true for most of us. We all need to do lot of effort to get a small moment of living life totally. The reason behind this is the habit of defining life. Because we are engaged in defining the experience that life has presented to us, we are not available, not present in the experience and so we are not able to have a connection with it. And you know what? there is nothing more joyful then experiencing the freshness of life each moment.

So why we try to define everything?
The sole purpose of definitions is communication with others. Normally if I have to express something to someone, it is possible through some set of definitions which are common for both the speaker and the listener. But out of long practice, we have completely forgotten that we don’t need to express everything to others, so we don’t need to define everything. And even if we need to define it to others, whats the point in interfering the live experience when its happening. Anyway we can define it later because its stored in the memory.Lets experience it now

Just stay with whatever life has presented you in this moment, not trying to define it, not trying to understand it and see the magic. Without any effort you enter into the real life, experiencing it directly, no barriers between you and life. Habit of defining is what is in the way, so let go of it and be merged in life totally, floating in the ocean of life.

Thinking vs Living

Thinking is not living. They are two different aspects of our life. And it is living not thinking that gives you joy, fulfillment, contentment in life. And a fine balance of both of these aspects is required in life, in order to be joyful, full of life.Most of us have a feeling that something is lacking in life, even if we have everything that once we thought would make us happy. It’s the life itself thats lacking. We are missing the opportunity of living life every moment, every day and we know it deep down in our heart. And it makes us sad, discontent.

So whats the way out?
Get to know this clearly that thinking is required for preparations of life and ‘You’ are required to live it. You can know this very easily if you look into your life moment by moment, event by event.

An event where preparations are perfect but you are not fully present there for some reason, you simply missed that moment of life. It simply passed without you living it. This event is added in the unlived events of your life in memory.

It is the unlived life that makes you restless. So start living it now. Plan your weekend well, but focus more on living it.

How to gain clarity in daily life?

We work most efficiently when act out of clarity. Although we seem to have forgotten it due to fast life, stress etc. Lets take a look how to come back to clarity.

Clarity can’t be achieved overnight. We will need to put in some effort and have little patience. But if we move in right direction, with little efforts we can gain lot of clarity.

So what’s the right direction?
Usually we have two type of questions to answer daily.
1. What to do?
2. How to do?

In this exercise we will put all our ‘How to do’ questions on autopilot. Meaning we will answer them in our habitual way, so we don’t need to spend any extra energy on them.

Now for our ‘What to do’ tasks we will practice a little exercise. Before doing any such task ask yourself ‘why i need to do this?’. You will start going deep in the investigation of it. Keep asking this until either you get clarity or you run out of time for it.

This will give you certain level of clarity about that task and also it will increase your overall clarity level.

Is Not-knowing in the way of Clarity?

Is Not-knowing in the way of Clarity?
Not-knowing or better known as ignorance is never a hindrance, rather it is an invitation to true-knowing or clarity.

So then what’s in the way?
Fake knowledge is in the way of clarity. By fake knowledge I mean the knowledge which we don’t really have but we pretend to have it for the sake of others. As far as objective knowledge is concerned, this attitude does not harm much. But we not only use this so called knowledge while talking to others but also while resting in ourself or talking to our loved ones. Out of long practice of such attitude creates a sort of layer between us and everything else. And we cease to see nature of things. This is called confusion.

How confusion impacts our life and how our expectations go wrong:
Because of confusion we are not able to perceive the nature of things correctly. The wrong perception results in wrong judgment about people and situations. So effectively we start expecting things which are not going to happen. Now we can see how our life becomes full of sufferings.

Welcome

Friends,
I welcome you all to this blog. For me the only purpose of creating this blog is sharing my joy that is arising like a perfume out of clarity.

Soon I will be posting thoughts and simple exercises around ‘How to regain Clarity’.

Wishing you a wonderful day,
rajee.